June, my dog, stole our neighbor’s dog’s tennis ball. Syndey, a striking reddish Golden Retriever, who doesn’t let beauty get to her head, would just as soon give the ball to June, but that’s not the point. The ball was squarely in our front yard. This is no big deal since Syd is here every […]
Today I drove to a New Jersey beach at a ludicrously early hour, ensuring there wouldn’t be many other surfers. I can’t steer. Yet. I stood on my first wave less than 18 months ago. That was in warm, sunny Costa Rica, at Witch’s Rock Surf Camp. You must drop everything and go there, actually. Find […]
As I’ve been writing more about anxiety and panic—for dogs and humans—I’ve been talking about it and thinking about it more, too. Something has emerged from all those conversations and ponderings: a million little tactics we come up with to cope. Ask anyone about this, whether they have a dog who’s scared of the vacuum […]
June’s 7-to-9-month hormone surge (blerg) and her small bouts of increased courage (yay!) are leading to a little defiance issue. You know the one. I say, “June come!” a command I taught obsessively when she was a scared, squirmy puppy, one I used to show off to my friends. She was so cute when she […]
There are a lot of moments in therapy, where you go, “That sounds too simple to work.” “I Feel” Statements are an example of this. So you try it because you are paying so much money. And then it works. Later you tell your friend about it and say, “There, I just saved you $200,” […]
Anxiety locks us into absolutes. Like dragonflies, we are adaptable.