The “you-statement” is one of the odder psychological tactics I use to get ahead at work. Find out why.
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How Much Pay to Ask For: Navigating the Mother of Awkward Conversations in 5 Steps
Knowing how much pay to ask for can bring you financial stability, deep inner motivation, and peace. It’s time.
Why Being “Disengaged” at Work is an Emergency!
I’ve had clients describe the feeling of “golden handcuffs” due to a steady paycheck that’s served up with a hefty side of dread.
Listen Better to Win Negotiations, Even With 4-Year-Olds
I took my older son (he’s 4) on a trip to Phoenix to visit family. Our main outing was to the Phoenix Zoo to see this “Honey I Shrunk the Kids” style exhibit called Big Bugs. I’m not into bugs, but we scored a great deal on Groupon, so off we went. The zoo set […]
How to Hold People Accountable With the Magic Email
I just finished listening to the book Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss, and I can’t shut up about it. An ex-FBI international kidnapping negotiator opens each chapter with a crazy-but-true hostage negotiation story. Then he takes whatever tactic was used and applies it to regular […]
Why You Should Never “Fake It Til You Make It”
I gave the advice “Fake it til you make it,” before. I did it happily, borderline smugly even. Usually, I follow it up with a classic career story of mine, which I will now tell to you (Lucky you; Please imagine me smoking a pipe in a mahogany office). Many moons ago, on the first […]
How We Get Stuck In A Rut At Work (And Why It’s Exactly Like Runner’s Chafe)
A lot of my clients are ashamed of being stuck in a rut at work. I’d like to absolve you from the guilt right now, by taking a closer look at how we get stuck. To do so, I shall compare your work rut to one of my other least favorite annoyances in life: the chafing that comes with long-distance running. It will be fun, I promise.
Don’t Tell Your Boss About The Food Poisoning
If the words “staying close to the bathroom” have made it into any of your “sick day” emails, you need this post. I’ve been there. Especially if you are a perfectionist, type A, overachiever; it’s agonizing to figure out how much detail to give your boss. If you ate at a new sushi place and […]
Why Do We Love Secret Identities So Much?
Do you ever sit at work and think about how you’re two people? Day Job You, slogging away, processing invoices. And Secret Superhero You, who is perhaps, a world-class novelist, cello player, and whiskey aficionado, when not rescuing puppies. I used to think this. I’d imagine how amazing I COULD be if only I had more time to spend as Secret Superhero Me.
